SEXTOY: YOU’LL NEVER GUESS HOW MUCH IT CAN DO FOR YOU

Women generally rely on a sextoy when they’re single or are not satisfied with their sexlife. Using it within the couple is a whole other story though… Sharing a sextoy with a partner is more common that you may think. A study carried out by Troyan, the condom brand, demonstrated that:

• 53% of women and 45% of men aged between 18 and 60 had already used a sextoy during a sexual intercourse.
• 80% of women who had already tried a sextoy did that with their partner.

Even if the most common purpose of sextoy seems to be “solitary” masturbation, introducing them in your relationship could make you love them even more… Here’s why Soft Paris suggests to look at sextoys from another point of view: stop considering them exclusively connected to solitary pleasure and start thinking of them as something that could improve your couple’s sexlife! Here’s a 4 steps-guide on how to introduce a sextoy in your couple.

1. Feel comfortable with your sextoy

  We are sure you love your sextoy like crazy, but do you feel comfortable in talking about it? Before introducing the topic to your partner, be sure it won’t bother you and you’re capable of dealing with it without shame or taboo. In case you’re not 100% confident, talk with a friend or with your Happiness Advisor, she’ll know how to counsel you properly.

2. Proceed carefully

  Your partner is probably aware that you use intimate toys. If that’s not the case, you’ll need to introduce the topic delicately. You could offer him to flip through Soft Paris’ catalogue together and discuss what products you may like or be interested in. You could also subtly hint at the fact that you would like to spice up your sex routine a little. Or you may tell him about an article you’ve recently read (this one on couples’ masturbation, for example). There are plenty of ways to bring the matter to light, carefully choose the one that best suits your partner’s needs and let things take their natural course.

3. Learn

  When you’ll both agree on introducing a sextoy in your sexlife, you’ll have to learn how to use it together. The easiest thing would be to show your partner how you normally use it… why don’t you create a sexy scenario around it? You’ll make him more excited than ever. But if you are not comfortable in doing it, don’t sweat. You can always use words to express your desires and what makes you feel aroused. Then it’ll be your partner’s turn. Never forget that communication is the key to have a satisfying relationship and sexlife.

4. Act

  You and your partner thoroughly discussed the topic and are now ready to introduce a sextoy in your sexlife, we bet you can’t wait! It’s finally time for some action. Guide him, show him the best way to use your sextoy (position, pressure, angle etc.). Let him play with it and get used to it, this way you’ll soon be able to turn the tables… Would you like to try a sextoy capable of simultaneously satisfying the both of you? Then why don’t you choose a penis ring? You’ll double the pleasure! If you want more information on naughty accessories and crave for counsel on how to improve your couple life, book a Soft Party! During a naughty accessories direct sale, an Happiness Advisor is going to present different models of sextoys, cosmetics and lingerie and provide - in an extremely classy way - precious advice on how to master the seduction art. So, see you at the next Soft Party!